Poly Risk Reward

A Forensic Exploration Of A Non-Monogamous Marriage With A Unique Twist

About

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In 2024, my wife and I found out I’m not our daughter’s biological father. Through essays, podcasts and a longer book, I document this journey, exploring specific topics around open marriage and polyamory.


Who am I? My name's Ned Stranger - I'm an English songwriter and unapologetic oversharer. I grew up near Brighton on the south coast of England, moved to Cambridge to study law, then turned my back on a well paid lawyer job to settle in London and explore the music scene. In 2018 I met Anya and entered the world of non-monogamy. In 2022, we moved to Vienna (Austria) where we've lived ever since.

Essays

9. "How did you stop feeling jealous?" by Ned Stranger

What does a spilled pint of IPA have to do with unpacking my jealousy?

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7. “Why do you want to date other people?” by Ned Stranger

What are the fundamental needs fulfilled by dating other people?

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5. "Why did she want to stay with her lover? Were you not enough?" by Ned Stranger

Help with this insecurity came from an unusual source...

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Podcast

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For fans of an auditory experience, I tell the story from start to finish, pausing at certain points on the journey to reflect on specific questions around non-monogamy, jealousy, relationship rules and communication.

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The Book

Cover of the PolyRiskReward Book

I'm currently editing the draft of the book version of Poly Risk Reward, telling the full story in much more detail and exploring the philosophy and science of alternative relationship styles and unusual parenting.

To find out how to get your hands on one of the very first copies, drop me a message using the contact form below!

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